How to deal with a spoiled child:
In our house, a spoiled child. His signs and actions, and how do we deal with him:
How many times have you gone to the supermarket and seen a kid yelling at his mother to buy him candy? You must have encountered a spoiled child screaming, kicking in the middle of a supermarket, beating other children on the way or disrespecting his parents.
Sometimes we see a child yelling at his mother to buy him the toy, another pushing everyone who gets in his way, and a third screaming and throwing his body on the ground until his mother meets his demands. And these examples are a picture of a spoiled child, with no doubt.
If a spoiled child is left that way, and grows up with this behavior, he will be a selfish bully, who does not take responsibility in the future.
This child will enter into a constant struggle with all those around him, without discrimination even when he reaches adulthood, hence the role of parents to discover and try to treat this behavior.
Spoiled child behaviors
First: tantrums between the ages of 2 and 4, which is a natural behavior that indicates that the child is spoiled.
And the explanation. Tantrums at this age are not because of the inability to express feelings, but because they are aimed at manipulating and getting what the child wants.
Second: spoiled children do not appreciate what they have and are never satisfied. A spoiled child always wants new toys, and does not respond to the word “no”.
Third: Educationally and morally, everyone, old and young, must address each other with respect, using “please” or “thank you” and avoiding bad morals.
A child who addresses others with disrespect or disdain, makes hurtful comments, waves his hands, or raises his voice, is certainly a spoiled and corrupt child.
Fourth: it is normal for the average child not to respond permanently. for the requests that parents ask, and even resist doing what they don’t want to do.
But spoiled children deliberately reject their parents’ orders and requests, ignoring their responsibilities.
A spoiled child is the fruit of excessive love
The over-desire to protect a child deprived him of the opportunity to learn how to take responsibility, depending on his age, as well as to bear the consequences of his actions.
There is nothing wrong with helping your child, but without fulfilling all his wishes, you in this case convey to him that he is always rightful, and has no responsibility.
Don’t make the language of communication with your children orders, screams and threats, children need to feel love and respect, the opposite of this put them in a state of rejection and rebellion.
Don’t take advantage of your parental authority. Talk to your child, don’t raise your voice, don’t take advantage of your authority as a father, and don’t overuse the word “no” to everything.
Parents are the main role models in their children’s lives, and their motivation for blind imitation, repeating the same behavior with them as “no.”
Re-raising a spoiled child
Allow your child to take responsibility, and don’t do anything for him that he can do himself.
Give him respect and explain the reasons behind your requests or rejection of their wishes.
Be a positive model, address your child as you like to address you.
Don’t go down to their level when they scream, cry or challenge you.
Appreciate and reward their good attitudes, spend more time with them, and share activities.
Children need limits in dealing with things to grow emotionally and psychologically healthy, so simple requests from you such as “don’t eat candy before dinner” or “pick up your toys after using them” help guide them and make them feel the importance of commitment.
So keep in mind limits that must be clear, coherent and consistent, so don’t give in to preventing your child from crying by fulfilling all his wishes, doing so will undermine your authority and send confusing signals to the child.
It is not to make our desire to protect our children from frustration to deprive them of the opportunity to learn how to take responsibility according to their age, as well as to learn to handle the consequences of their actions.
So it’s okay to help your child, but without fulfilling all his wishes, in which case we tell them that they are always right and have no responsibilities.
On the other hand, the opposite is also not appropriate: the language of communication is always with your children orders, screams and threats, children need to feel love and respect besides listening to them, otherwise the bond deteriorates and their rebellion increases and their behavioral problems worsen.
Bad role model
Have you ever stopped thinking about how you’re talking to your child? Do you tend to raise your voice, taking advantage of your parental authority and always saying “no” to everything?
In this case, you have become a negative inspiration and a motivation for blind imitation by your children, as they repeat the same behavior with them, you must always and never remember that you are the main role model in their lives.